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Your guide to improved life satisfaction

Your Guide

      People are in search of something.  They search outside of themselves for this elusive sense of being through books, classes, associations, and a host of other avenues.  Sometimes their thirst is slaked, other times their confusion only deepens.  Phillip's passion and purpose is to help those who want to grow, take control of their lives, and live with purpose.  There is a desire within us to understand the power within.  We take control of our lives by understanding ourselves.  With this insight, a new perspective is gained. From this we make informed choices based on our desires, and not another's need.  

 

     Here, are some insights Phillip has gained over the years and continues to discover more.  If you find value in them, fantastic. He has served you well.  If you would like to discover more, contact Phillip at brdnsky@gmail.com and see what nuggets of gold lie within you.  

What If?

     We are magnets for change because we are always dreaming about what if. What if I had asked her out, would she have said yes? What if I had finished college? What if I had taken the other job? The funny thing about such fanciful inquiries is that they are filled with emptiness.


     A lot of us like to say we use the Law of Attraction, but we really don’t know much about it. Yeah, we say like attracts like. While that’s true, we often wonder how we attracted the messes we often find ourselves in. The true question about all of this is what are we really attracting? Think about all of those ideas or plans many of us have on our mental back burner. When was the last time they were revisited? Don’t know?


     If any are like me, whenever something seems to click, it’s time to renew investigations. Sometimes they lead to a dead end. When this happens, dump the pot. Other times, new ideas are discovered and added to the stew. If we don’t check on what’s cooking back there, it goes bad without any of us being any wiser. What happens then? Everything goes sour.


     If any are following the Law of Attraction, at least our understanding of it, we may want to do a mental exercise to see if its time to get rid of some stuff. For instance, a lot of us like to use the term, I want to be (fill in the blank) when I grow up. If we are in our forties, it’s time to throw that pot out. The reason we are saying this is because most have already made the decision one time or another. Adolescence is not just for teenagers. Sometimes it bleeds into early adulthood. If any are still trying to make that choice, then perhaps they are interested in making changes in their life.


     When we begin experiencing poor job satisfaction, we begin fantasizing about a better position. So, if any are daydreaming and wishing, then they may have discovered wishing gets you a handful of nothing. Of course, there is a more colorful way of putting it. This means it’s time to check the mental burners to see if you have any recourse available.


     Not knowing what we want leads to confusion. If there is nothing on the back burner, then get a pen and paper and write down all of your passions. This means, don’t write down the mediocre stuff. If any want to shift from a state of confusion into a state of purposefulness, then they are going to have to engage their emotions. Become emotional about what we want out of life and live a life of expectancy. What I mean is expect greatness from life and it will happen, but we have to do our part.


     If procrastination is an enemy, then find someone to hold us accountable. This means be proactive in our efforts. Enlist the aid of a friend, find a mastermind group, or hire a life-coach. In Neal Conan’s Talk of the Nation on National Public Radio, he interviewed Atul Gawande, they discussed the value of a coach for professionals and suggest others should have life-coaches as well to improve life satisfaction.[1] Accountability is what moves us forward. Step out of confusion, wishful thinking, and daydreaming of life’s scenarios. Step into purposeful actions, clarity in purpose, and satisfaction.


Works Cited

Gawande, A. (2011). Athletes Have Coaches. Why Not Everyong Else? Talk of the Nation. (N. Conan, Interviewer) National Public Radio.


[1] (Gawande, 2011).


2019

Power: A Lifelong Lesson

     The idea that we attract events and are attracted to events by default is not new, at least not to the observant. Those who feel they’re stuck in a rut are on the edge of making this discovery. The real question is why are we doing this by default?


     Nature provides us with at least two needs to be fulfilled. The first is survival. If ever there were a universal natural law, this would be it. The Natural Law of Survival is witnessed in every aspect of creation. Every animal and plant struggles to survive. We struggle to survive the many circumstances we not only foist upon ourselves but acquiesce to. Creation does not stop there. There is also the continuity of life, commonly referred to as life after death or reincarnation. Survival will always come first. Of Nature’s supreme laws this one is difficult to ignore, but often overlooked.


     The second great law is the Natural Law of Belonging. Every creature that moves upon the earth is part of a larger whole. The anomalies are those that prefer to be alone, but are they separate? The idea of belonging is not limited to our concept of soulmate, lovers, or family. Our greatest institution advocates a type of reunification, suggesting the idea of being separate is a step in the belonging process. When we are prevented from belonging to something, we become dangerous to others and ourselves.


     Many clichés exist to explain our purpose for being here. Working through past life issues, or to learn lessons are popular. When this question was put to others, the response was to experience life because God was unable to do so. We are going to introduce another, to learn about power. Power is best described as the ability to influence.[1] We think of power as the ability to influence others, but it is more than that.


     The first stage of life occurs when we are children. We’ll be more specific. When we are born, we begin developing our power. This is when the survival instinct given by Nature rules our lives. We cry when we need to be fed. We cry when we need to be held. There’s that other gift of Nature, the need to belong. During this time, it’s difficult to become aware of our power.


     When we move into the second stage of our lives, we are still unaware of the power within. We unknowingly test the power we wield. We bend the rules or ignore them. We have no concept of the idea of consequences. That’s why we bend and ignore them. Later, when we begin to comprehend the role consequences, we begin taking them into account. Well, sometimes we do. The tendency to ignore them remains strong.


     When entering the last stage of childhood, we have become aware of our power. We have learned that bending the rules is possible and ignoring them is preferable. The thrill of living has not been tempered with consequences because many of the consequences of our deeds do not return to us until many years later. Science tells us the brain is not fully formed until we are in our mid-twenties and early thirties. By the time we enter our thirties, we begin to experience the price of many thoughtless daring deeds. That is, if we survive them. Many of those I knew from high school had moved on by the time I reached thirty-five. Only a handful progress any further.


     When we enter the first part of adulthood, those of us who survive, begin to understand the power we wield. The consequences of poor choices reveal themselves time and again. The bad choices stay with us forever, sometimes in the form of guilt, other times in the form of regret. Of those who survived the stages of childhood, many get stuck here. Addictions take hold like some self-applied adhesive. They become more than just stuck. They become absorbed into the environment and the fabric of life. Others merely travel about in circles. To the observer, they go ‘round and ‘round, experiencing the same calamities we experienced years ago. Sometimes we think they never stood a chance. Other times we shake our heads in mild confusion and astonishment. What has become clear to us still eludes them.


     In the second part of adulthood, we begin to apply our power. This tends to happen in our late forties or fifties. Some call this the prime of our lives. We have experienced life enough to know how to minimize the consequences of our behavior, because we realize it is our behavior and not another’s that’s at fault. We have learned that others respond to us in a fashion that is familiar and out of habit. We realize that it’s our actions that have triggered the responses we find offensive. For those with a deeper understanding, they will seek to comprehend the reason for the actions they have encountered. For them, it’s a method of improvement. Others may just shake their heads and move on. Most are somewhere in between.


     We don’t know much about the next stage of adulthood, because it is yet to be experienced. For some of us, it will be a time to disseminate the wisdom we’ve developed. This is the only way we can experience fulfillment.


     Every stage of life is about the experience of power. We experience the power of others and in doing so, experience our potential. Power is something all struggle with. For some it is the reception of the power of others, the reaction. For others, it is the discovery of the power within. We leave you with this. Power is the ability to influence. For beings such as we, it is the ability to influence others, including ourselves. Power is neither beneficial nor is it detrimental. Power is neutral. The wielder does not determine if power is beneficial or detrimental. It is simply an extension of their being. Those experiencing the power of others determine if the power used is beneficial or detrimental. Their determination is more influential upon others as they demonstrate their power.


Works Cited

Haug, I. E. (1999). Boundaries and the use and misuse of power and authority: Ethical complexities for clergy psychotherapists. Journal of Counseling & Development, 77(4), 411.


[1] (Haug, 1999)



12 2019

Red Flags

What is possibly the most difficult thing any of us has ever done? While many will sift through their list of accomplishments, they will most likely overlook this one action. This one action is one of the needs buried within that must be satisfied. Many may redirect their attention to the need to survive, but this is relatively easy in comparison. The birth and progress of civilization is based upon this difficult task. Being friendly is the first step and the easiest. The difficult part of being friendly is maintaining the relationship.


Friendships, lovers, marriages, siblings, partnerships, and the rests are all relationships. They require something from us. They require commitment. Some may say they require work, but what is really needed is commitment. Without commitment, we are like ships passing in the night. We greet each other, partake of each other’s company, and continue with our journey. We may cross paths frequently or infrequently. It doesn’t matter. If we continue to greet each other, partake of each other’s company, conversation, or feel, we remain ships passing in the night. We remain strangers. There is no intimacy. There is no commitment. There is no relationship. We are acquaintances.


Experiences, media, and societal conditioning direct our attention towards red flags, warnings of potentialities. These potentialities become barriers. To say they are generated through fear is shortsightedness. Barriers are for protection and danger appears to come from various directions. What many of us fail to understand about barriers is they not only keep harm from getting close, they also prevent what is within from reaching out.


Consider what may trigger these precursors. A word in their vocabulary. An action associated with a troubling event. An unexplainable impression. The list can be extensive. Everyone has compiled their own and have prioritized them differently. Thus, the only list we may address is our own. Psychics may look down their pathway hoping to glimpse a potential future. Although they may say they are looking down their path, they are more likely looking down the path of another, mistaking it as their own. They may see someone cautiously standing at their door, ready to bolt. This may cause the one gazing to turn away. Another may see fences. Barriers are generally indications for others to remain at a distance. When we are impressed with visions or feelings equivalent to these, they are often paired with memories. All of this is automatic, reflexive, or habitual. Our actions are the same, automatic, reflexive, and habitually we withdraw. What happens when we retreat?


Frequently, these flags appear before we become too involved and we’re able to depart with grace. As ships passing in the night, we tend not to alter our course to include another. Once we have altered course, it’s difficult to return to it. We may consider moving in a different direction, but this incurs its own difficulties. We may attempt to continue while remaining some distance apart; maintain a parallel course until another ship passes nearby. There may also be a lack of self-confidence, and we continue until we find the courage to disentangle ourselves. These options are usually the only ones we consider.


Why do we receive these red flags? We communicate on a variety of levels. The only ones many of us pay attention to are the obvious ones. When we speak, others hear and some listen. To hear is merely a response to stimuli. To listen is to seek comprehension. When listening, we pay attention to the intonations of the words spoken. We also listen to the words not spoken, which are sometimes louder. We communicate through our eyes. We watch, which is not the same as seeing. Seeing is a response to stimuli. To watch is to observe. We observe the actions of others, especially their lack of actions. We watch the language of the body, which does not always support the words spoken. We sense the emotions of others. This is not merely the writings of mystics. We perceive through certain neurons of the brain. We empathize with others. We speak through the resonance of the various fields generated by the body and mind. We reach out towards others expressing our desires, intent, and memories through waves and frequencies. We are beings of many facets perceiving the facets of others. What information might these red flags bring us?


Like all that we experience, they are open to interpretation. Red flags are warning signs, but not of others. They are warnings to ourselves, about ourselves. They are whispers of those incomprehensible disturbances. They do not give us false information. We interpret the information incorrectly. We withdraw, not because of the experience, but because of the memory of an experience. We still prefer pleasure to pain and chose to avoid pain. In our avoidance, we have lost because we have not explored the pain. Pain, like fear, anger, and anxiety tell us something is wrong. Our red flags are potential opportunities to resolve issues or to allow them to dissolve us. Red flags provide clues to patterns. The patterns they reveal are our own, not those of others. They are subtle hints, breadcrumbs revealing a path of familiarity. Yes, we have traveled this path or one like it. Yes, we have an inkling of what to expect or we can be watchful for less traveled avenues. Perhaps we are interpreting the information incorrectly.


Are the warnings receive about the dangers of others? Could they be informing us of the menace we present to ourselves? Perhaps these red flags are not indications for caution but are defense mechanisms coming into play. A rapid retreat is a defensive move. Veering off in a different direction does not mean we are moving forward. Travelling with another while watching for opportunities of escape is not vindication. None of these actions provides safe passage. Sometimes the safest and more rewarding route is traveling through turbulent waters.


Relationships are challenging. We continuously encounter red flags. We must decide if our response is to pull away or continue our engagement. More often than not, the response is automatic, and we fail to determine if we have encountered a red flag or have misinterpreted signals. Before activating our defenses, we should ask if the danger perceived is a faulty defense mechanism or we may one day find ourselves alone.


2019

Finding the Map

     All experiences are good. This doesn’t mean I enjoy watching others having theirs. By theirs, I mean their rough patches. A short time ago, a friend had to be rushed to the hospital for some poor choices. She had become overwhelmed by current circumstances. She was striking out on her own and learning about the inhabitants of the world – inhabitants who are not always nice. I could say she is young, but age has nothing to do with what happened. Experience does. While I consider my life relatively satisfying, it was not always the case. I too have experienced overwhelming circumstances and have done things not entirely beneficial, but I survived them, and I am confident she will too.


     On our journey, we come to cruxes, which amount to turning points in our lives. One such event occurred around 2000. The crux occurred during a team-building event sponsored by the company I worked for.


     While several events led to enlightening experiences, the event I want to talk about was called ‘The Wall.’ The Wall is a manufactured incline about the length of a gymnasium. For all intents and purposes, it was supposed to be a hill that morphed into a sheer cliff. Like all opportunities, there are the customary easy, difficult, and near impossible choices. Our choice of opportunities was where to climb. Our facilitator instructed us on the use of safety ropes. Immediately afterward, we were told to choose a portion of wall and begin climbing. The two extreme ends were narrow compared to the center. Of the three sections, this was the most crowded. Being a foolish person – always challenging myself – I selected the one I was the least prepared for. Of course, this was on the extreme end. The section chosen was more like an outcropping of fiberglass rock. Barely six feet into the climb, I was forced to make a hasty retreat, and failed. With arm muscles screaming in protest, the last few feet came rather suddenly. Immediately upon my failure, the facilitator rushed to my side, not to inquire about my wellbeing, but to send me to the other extreme.


     I stood at the foot of what is best described as a gentle hill – the kiddies’ end of the wall. Without preamble, I embarked upon the climb, which amounted to less than climbing stairs. At the top, I sat contemplating what had happened. A flaw in my decision process had been glaringly brought to my attention. The continuous struggles experienced were due to my self-deceiving choices. I was responsible for the torturous path being traveled. I had sabotaged the future. Upon departing from this weekend exercise, a conscious effort was made not to repeat those floundering mishaps. However, like anyone else who has become enlightened of their superb efforts of navigation, more challenges awaited.


     When we chose to alter the course of our lives, we must inevitably deal with the wake trailing behind us. Events are merely interactions of energy, and in our case, they are the interactions of our energy upon others. Those distant buoys of energy are part of us, in much the same way as the results of this article are a part of me. In the case of past events, the energy from our wakes will find us because it is part of us. Some events will bring beneficial consequences, while others…. well you know what I mean. As those other events find their way back, we must experience them, and change their frequency so they will return with beneficial events. It took me several years to work out those detrimental results. So, be prepared.


     The lesson being shared is, no matter when we decide to make changes in our lives, the effects of previous steps will take some time to return. While today, life is very satisfying, it did not happen overnight – not even within a year. Perhaps there are still bits of the previous wake that have yet to return. When they do, I shall absorb them, re-shape them, and release them into the stream. When you make changes in the course of your life, don’t give up. Another insight gained is someone is always waiting to support us. We are not alone. Do not isolate yourself. Surround yourself with good deeds, good people, and ride the leading edge of turbulence. When you come out on the other side, look back and say, ‘that wasn’t so hard after all, maybe even a little fun.’ Smile, and plan your next adventure.

Becoming The All


One of the main points to meditation is the alignment of the different aspects that compose our identity.[1] We call this path the path of becoming. We are on a continual journey of evolution. We are becoming something else. What are we becoming? This is a simple question, which has a simple answer. We like to think we are becoming like Christ, Buddha, or some other religious icon. We like to think we are learning to be like them. Fundamental to what they taught is to simply be. Many make this journey one of intense devotion to something other than being.


What is understandable to the mind depends upon what it has been exposed to. Obviously, one cannot understand calculus unless one has a grasp of algebra, and one cannot understand algebra, unless one understands the fundamentals of math. When we begin delving into the mysteries of mind, we cannot begin to understand what is revealed until we have a firm grasp of self. All revolves around the perception of the environment, the Divine, and the self. Namely all revolves around you.


When considering the environment of mind, we must go beyond the obvious. Medical science views the mind as being the result of a series of chemical processes. This is a very shortsighted view of such a complex system. In the early 1900s Duncan MacDougall reasoned that if a soul existed it must exert some physical evidence. For instance, weight. If mind or soul exists within the body, there must be proof. His experiments revealed 0.75 ounces left the body at death. [2] Unfortunately, this experiment did not meet the standards of science.


Reincarnation insinuates that the mind or soul – migrates from body to body. Consequently, the mind would have to exist in an environment different from what we are accustomed. David Bohm has a suggestion.


For Bohm, two universes exist, one that is external, and one considered internal.[3] He takes the accepted view of the universe being composed of matter and inverts it. We are aware that the natural state of the universe is flux. Everything that is measurable is continually evolving or dissolving. Suppose the ever-changing nature of the universe is the universe? This would mean that radiations such as ultraviolet and electromagnetic were the real planets and solar systems and what we call planets are pools or eddies of energy caught in sluggish systems. Wow imagine what that means. Creation is top down and down top. The environment of the mind is composed of these energies we call radiation and of what we refer to as cells.


Consider this. If we look to the river of Jordan being a representation of the flow of life and spirit, the river’s origin would be in the spirit realm and flows downward into the physical realm.[4] Physical reality would be the mouth of this trans-dimensional flow. In string theory, matter determines how space-time curves and space-time determines how matter travels.[5] The Divine operates on similar parameters as the mind. The difference being we are the vehicle of the Divine. The Divine moves us about in order to experience life.


Before the materialism of science took hold, which began with Descartes, there was no separation of humanity and nature. There idea was of a subtle substance within the body. During the Ancient period, the idea of anima or the breath of life was not contested. At this time, spirit was another word for breath and that was the animating force. After Christianity began setting up shop, the idea of an all-pervading breath of life became lost.


With the incursion of meditation into Western Culture, we have learned that everything has its origin in mind. Before something can be created, it must first have been a thought. Thoughts are what we create. Thoughts come into being because of desire. In most instances, desire is an illusion created by mind.

The most important stage of becoming lays in self-examination. We must understand who we are. For us and to do that, we must understand the ‘I,’ which is often our internal self-image. More precisely, our self-image is our mental counterpart.[6] We refer to this as the self. Understanding the role of self is what connects psychology to the occult.[7]


As children, we develop an internal self through our internal dialogue. How often have we heard others talking to themselves? This is a habit carried over from childhood. As adults, this internal companion takes on a larger role, becoming our mental counterpart. Our mental counterpart can be our inner critic or our inner coach.


Desires are often rooted in the body, which are imposed upon the mind. Thus, those who come out of the world can no longer be detained because they have overcome their desires.[8] This can occur when the mind awakens. Through our awakening, we discover our inter-connectedness with each other, nature, and the Divine.


Works Cited:


[1] (Bailey, 1978)

[2] (MacDougal, 1907)

[3] (Combs & Holland, 1996)

[4] (Gaffney, 2004) Gaffney places the earth plane somewhere between the bottom and probably the middle of the spiritual flow. This causes one to wonder what lies at the bottom. Obviously, something denser than the Earth. A black hole, perhaps?

[5] (Bousso & Polchinski, 2004). One may also assume that the body determines how the bioelectric field (aura) is shaped and the bioelectrical field determines how the body is composed. The major organs of the body generate specific electromagnetic fields and the field generated by the brain is considered the source of the mind. Scientifically speaking, that is.

[6] (Steiner, 1972)

[7] Occult means secret knowledge.

[8] (The Gospel of Philip, 1984). In this passage, Christ is explaining that the polarizations of the flesh, which are felt through desire, are crippling to one’s spiritual nature. However, to acknowledge the needs of the body and to fulfill those needs is equivalent to living in moderation.


2019

BRDNSKY Guide...

The real difference between seeing a psychologist, a minster, a psychic, and a life coach is that “…the coach is someone whose job is to be on your side of the fence. They’re there trying to help you achieve your maximum potential and help you figure out how to get there along the way."

                                                       NPR's Talk of the Nation with Neal Conan - Sept. 27, 2011

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The Study of Energy Balance

DNA sequences communicate with each other within the 7.8Hz range and the communication was such that nucleotides, which composed DNA were organized through this communication. This was demonstrated by the removal of all DNA from the water and then introducing the 7.8Hz. Specimen samples showed new DNA strands. When the frequency was removed, new strands were not present. This suggests that life on the planet is intimately connected to the frequency.

Adina Tatar (2016). Annals of the Constantin Brancusi University of Targu Jiu, Engineering Series

Eros and Sexual Love

Sexual excitement is a psychic state, not psychological. The state may even border on occult mysticism.

Julius Evola, (1983). The Metaphysics of Sex

cDNA microarray analysis of human keratinocytes cells of patients submitted to chemoradiotherapy and oral photobiomodulation therapy: Pilot study

Since the introduction of photobiomodulation therapy, or low level light therapy, patients have shown improvements. Unfortunately, researchers have not been successful in discovering the mechanisms associate with the treatment.


 Antunes HS; Wajnberg G; Pinho MB; Jorge NAN; de Moraes JLM; Stefanoff CG; Herchenhorn D; Araújo CMM; Viégas CMP; Rampini MP; Dias FL; de Araujo-Souza PS; Passetti F; Ferreira CG, (2018) Lasers In Medical Science

Review on the nonpharmacological therapy of traditional Chinese medicine with antihypertensive effects

Tai Chi is based on martial arts and is comprised of movement with deep breathing, and meditation. Movement is slow, fluid, and continuous. The exercise relaxes the body and mind while strengthening joints and boosting the immune system.


Fan, Hua; Lu, Feng; Yang, Ailing; Dong, Yidan; Liu, Ping; Wang, Youhua; (2019) Evidence-based Complementary & Alternative Medicine 

Effects of group drumming interventions on anxiety, depression, social resilience and inflammatory immune response among mental health service users

One the more popular unregulated therapies being formed by the public is the drumming circle. 90 minute sessions once a week for ten weeks demonstrated some relief from anxiety by week six with steady improvements afterwards.


Daisy Fancourt, Rosie Perkins, Sara Ascenso, Livia A. Carvalho, Andrew Steptoe,

Aaron Williamon (2016)

The 7 Healing Chakras

Co-dependency involves a rescuer and a victim or an enabler and the enabled.
The victim/ enabler controls the relationship while the rescuer/ enabler is caught in the illusion of devotion. The blind devotion sets up a control mechanism for the victim.

Brenda Davies (2000)

Safety and health benefits of novel dietary supplements consisting multiple phytochemicals, vitamins, minerals and essential fatty acids in high fat diet fed rats

While evidence exists to support the use of supplements, they are not consistent. Many of the boasted benefits have no scientific support.


Ramprasath, Vanu Ramkumar; Jones, Peter J. H.; Journal of Dietary Supplements, 2016; 13(4)

The benefits of mindfulness meditation: Changes in emotional states of depression, anxiety, and stress.

Psychological interventions based on mindfulness skills are an ever popular means of treating various psychological disorders. 


- Istvan Schreiner & James P. Malcolm (2008)  Behavior Change 25 (3) 156-168


What are you really looking for?

A while ago, I received a call from a referral partner.   The client was frantic. Know what she needed?  She was wanting a spiritual reading to find out what to do.  As we talked, she talked about not being able to find work.  She told me she didn't need to find a job. She could create a job!  She didn't need the reading.  What she needed was locked inside.  With some guidance, she found her answer was within. She didn't need psychic, she needed a coach. 

 

 If you aren't sure what is needed to get you moving, read Predicting Tomorrow's Psychology.  This was originally written for my final class in the BA program for psychology.  

 

We don't always need a spiritual or psychic reading, nor do we need therapy for all problems.  What we need are solutions.

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The idea of coaching others has been around for a long time.  I received training in 1996 through Indiana University South Bend.  Certification through Coach Training Alliance came later

Did You Know?

Producing value is tied to honesty and integrity.  Thus, producing value is easier than creating value.

 

Sources:

Hamilton, Mark; Alexander, Tracy; Savage, Eric & Wallace, Frank R. (2007). The Nouveau Tech Package of Inside Secrets. Neo-Tech Books

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The key to managing conflict is not to hide from it.  The first step is to acknowledge its existence.  Then, talk about it.

A mindful meditation: Mind over matter: Jon Kabat-Zinn.

When observed, mind is either contemplating the past or pondering the future. This contributes to a lack of awareness, limiting our perspective of self and our relationship to the environment. Such a state is akin to dreams.


Diehl, Katherine E. (1995). Body Mind Spirit Magazine, 14 (1) 42.

Experiencing Difficulties?

Some of the issues people experience may be due to unfinished business, meaning they can be traced to past relational conflicts.  Other problems may be a person's inability to reconcile events with expectations.  Exploring this possibility is important, because they can be resolved today.

 

From Barbara Okun & Ricki Kantrowitz - Effective Helping: Interviewing and Counseling Techniques


Research Note Between Religion and Spirituality


Spirituality is described as an exercise on personal freedom, personal experience, personal well-being and meaning to life in general. All of this takes place outside the realm of traditional religious practice, which is rooted in obedience to moral rules established by religious institutions.


F. Garelli (2007). Review of Religious Research, 48 (3) 318-326

The Relationship Between General Intelligence, Emotional Intelligence, Stress Levels, and Stress Reactivity

Emotional intelligence plays a more significant role in coping with stress than general intelligence.
Yogesh Singh & Ratna Sharma

The development of an internet-based support and coaching model

Many young adults have been sheltered from the adversities of life by their parents and find the transition difficult.  These people have a tendency to remain in their teenage mentality as long as possible.

 

Online sessions demonstrated improvement in self-esteem levels and a sense of coherence in those diagnosed with ADHD.

 

Wentz, Elisabet; Nydén, A.; Krevers, B.; European Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 2012 Nov; 21 (11): 611-22

The desire for attention is natural.  However, we are often afraid to speak up. 

 Brenda Davies.  The 7 Healing Chakras

What Our Habits Say about Us

When we become sad, angry, or melancholy, our mind is telling us something is amiss.  The body does the same thing when it becomes ill.  The mind follows the patterns that have been laid down.  These patterns may include misusing food, alcohol, and drugs as coping strategies, or any number of unhealthy behaviors that perpetuate life dissatisfaction.  When we become aware of poor habits, we have an opportunity initiate life changes.  We can exchange dissatisfying habits for those that bring life satisfaction.

What We Do to Ourselves

What some do to themselves

In social environments, people often compare themselves to others.  During these instances, the inner critic may point out their inadequacies.  The reason why is because they set their standards just out of reach.  Periodically, people meet these standards, but the inner critic directs them towards those instances when they were not met.

 

Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning.  Self Esteem

Individual-context interaction as a guide in the treatment of personality disorders

The relationship between personality and social context is dynamic. Half of an individual's personality is a result of genetic dispositions and circumstances determine the balance.

 

Hummelen JW; Rokx TA, Bulletin Of The Menninger Clinic [Bull Menninger Clin], ISSN: 0025-9284, 2007 Winter; Vol. 71 (1), pp. 42-55;

Perfection is the acceptance of imperfection.  For it is through imperfection that God is discovered.

Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul

Thinking is creating.  Problem solving is creative thinking.

Inspired by Abraham Maslow's Motivation and Personality

We are naturally Goal oriented, or purpose driven.  Without goals we have difficulty moving forward in life.  One might say that without goals, no matter how small they may be, we are lost.

Anthony M. Grant. An Integrated Model of Goal-Focused Coaching