What it means to have a BRDNSKY Guide
How does this works. Phillip listens to you. The two of you have a conversation, like real people do. You talk, and he listens. You tell him what your goal is. He listens as you explain what is preventing you from achieving it. As he get insights into who you are, he brings them to your attention. Through conversation patterns are revealed. He will ask questions that will challenge you.
For example, during a group coaching session, a client, was out of work and at a loss. His agenda was to find a new employer. Phillip asked him what purpose would the job to serve? Naturally, his first thought was similar to many responses, to pay bills and buy food. Phillip responded; any job can do that. Would you like it to support you in other ways? Consider other things a job can help you do or do you just want to survive? He considered what was being asked.
"You know," he began, "you're right. I want to do more than just survive." As they discussed the idea, he determined what purpose the job would serve. He talked about training he had recently completed. He was hoping the sponsoring company would also hire him. That didn't work out. They discussed other positions, which utilized his training.
As the session began wrapping up, Phillip asked him. "How would you feel about not looking in the want ads? How about going through the phone book instead. Decide what companies you would like to work for. Pay them a visit leave a resume, fill out an application, or even ask to speak to someone in Human Resources. How would you feel about that?"
He thought for a moment. "You know, that is a whole lot better than just going through the want ads and not finding anything."
Phillip offered another suggestion. "How would you feel about doing this? You go through the phone book. Pick enough to visit that will fulfill your unemployment requirements. While you are doing that, how do you feel about talking to your friends, and if they like working at their shop. Not necessarily ask if they are hiring, but what they do, and if they think it might be something you might like to do."
He thought about it. "You know, that's good idea."
"Great," Phillip responded enthusiastically. He followed through with the plan, and within one to two weeks he was working. He had found a job that served the purpose he wanted. Which was to provide him with a means to do more than just survive. Keep in mind that just surviving is going to work and coming home. Nothing more. Doing more than surviving is going to work, coming home, and doing something you want to do.
In this instance, the client reached his goal in a few sessions. His success was due to his actions. Your success hinges on your actions. What helps you succeed is developing a plan, acting on the plan, and having some kind of support. To be more precise, having someone who will hold you accountable. That is what your Brdnsky Guide is, your support. Your guide helps you think outside the box. Phillip assists you through encouragement so you achieve your goal. That's what's important. Your success.
This can do this over the phone, through e-mail, or through Skype. There are numerous ways to accomplish your goal. The most important thing is for you to feel comfortable talking with him. Phillip wants you to succeed as much as You want to succeed.
If you like to sit on the fence, or prefer others tell you what to do, the two of you will not get along well. Phillip only works with people who want to make changes in their life to succeed.
If this is something you want to check out, contact him. You can test drive your BRDNSKY Guide. If you find value in this, then there is a pretty good chance the two of you can work together. Be sure to put something in the subject line.
What are You Really Looking For?
A while ago, I received a call from a referral partner. The client was frantic. Know what she needed? She was wanting a spiritual reading to find out what to do. As we talked, she talked about not being able to find work. She told me she didn't need to find a job. She could create a job! She didn't need the reading. What she needed was locked inside. With some guidance, she found her answer was within. She didn't need psychic, she needed a coach.
If you aren't sure what is needed to get you moving, read Predicting Tomorrow's Psychology. This was originally written for my final class in the BA program for psychology.
We don't always need a spiritual or psychic reading, nor do we need therapy for all problems. What we need are solutions.
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Thinking is creating. Problem solving is creative thinking.
Inspired by Abraham Maslow's Motovation and Personality
Perfection is the acceptance of imperfection. For it is through imperfection that God is discovered.
Thomas Moore, Care of the Soul
Can you attract people?
This is a myth. The Law of Attraction is not about attracting people. Unless you count unruly behavior and you are trying to attract a police officer.
Individual-context interaction as a guide in the treatment of personality disorders
The relationship between personality and social context is dynamic. Half of an individual's personality is a result of genetic dispositions and circumstances determine the balance.
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