BRDNSKY (Bird In Sky)

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Some Ideas from Dave

The Life of Your Dreams

  • When you don't have time to do what you want to, you have already failed.  The only thing worse than this is not knowing what to do.
  • Having goals and priorities can help you wade through a sea of opportunities.  Goals and priorities help you move in direction.  Goals should not prevent you from taking advantage of something beneficial if you didn't plan for it.
  • Flexibility should always be part of any plan.
  • Many people manage life.  Their focus lies on day-to-day activities with no intention guiding them.  This is managing life or allowing life to control you

 

Step 1: Commit

  • Writing is an important element to setting goals, intentions, and planning.  Writing is, in itself, a level of commitment.
  • Consider how you spend your day.  Ask yourself, how much was spent producing value, how much was consuming value, and how much was valueless.  Then ask yourself if your day was satisfying.  If your day wasn't satisfying, what can you change?
  • Engage in the goal process by discussing.  This keeps them fresh and active.
  • Develop a life of purpose.  This can help you sift through goals, desires, and distractions.  Your focus will naturally be on what is in alignment with your purpose.

 

Step 2: Create

  • The most important part of setting a goal is visualizing it.
  • Ask yourself these two questions often:

              Where do you want to be in five to ten years?

              What are you willing to do to succeed?

  • After considering these questions, ask yourself why you want what you have visualized? 
  • Ask yourself how you will meet the goal.

              Now break the goal down into manageable parts. 

            This way they become small goals that support the larger goal.

  • Consider turning obstacles and challenges into goals.  Begin by restating the issue as clearly as possible.  Then, restate it in ways that include solutions.

 

Step 3: Construct

  • One of the pitfalls to writing down goals is making them too simple, or focusing on low priority goals first.  Arrange them in a fashion that moves you in a definite direction.
  • Revisit your goals often.  This allows you to adjust them.

 

Step 4: Carry Out Your Plan

  • One method of determining the type of goals you should seek is to evaluate your life.  Don't focus on the mistakes, but also on the successes.  This allows you to see areas where you may want to improve and areas you and enhance.  A mixture is good, and be sure you are the one choosing.
  • Successfully working with others is all about attitude.  Develop an accepting attitude and many of the effects of stress will be channeled into other activities such as exercise, problem-solving, or creativity.
  • Being critical is fine, as long as it doesn't get in the way of progress.  Critical thinking can persuade you right out of doing something grand, such as succeeding.
  • Expectations have the ability to override feelings of satisfaction.  Sometimes a person's expectations are so great, any aspects not met turns the feat into a disaster.
  • Self-conditioning is a way of controlling behaviors.  Try associating a behavior you find discouraging with something that will encourage you to act in the fashion you desire.

 

Step 5: CELEBRATE

Remember to celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may be.

Dave Ellis', Creating Your Future

I added this to my bookshelf some time ago and recently placed it on my nightstand.  While I would like to boast and claim all of the ideas posted for you, alas, I can't.  Some of them are inspired from others.  While I don't always agree with them, experience has taught me that nothing is a 'one size fits all.'  So, I glean tidbits and make connections to similar events in my life.  My hope is for you to find something that makes sense to you, and use it to move you in the direction you want to be in.

 

Dave Ellis' Creating Your Future, is a simplistic approach to goal setting.  The strategies he suggests are adequate.  However, success is determined by a person's desire and discipline.  Of course, if someone is new to the idea of moving out of managing life and into a more involved participation, this is a good read.